You know I'm such a fool for you
Ever since I watched Click two weeks ago (a must-see, by the way, for those who haven't already seen it), I couldn't get Linger (Cranberries) out of my head. It has become my permanent LSS because of these two lines in the chorus:
But I'm in so deep. You know I'm such a fool for you
you've got me wrapped around your finger...
you've got me wrapped around your finger...
It's just strange because I wasn't a fan of this song when it came out. And yet, after one movie, these two lines feel burned in my head.
No, no, I'm not "in love" or anything. There is no guy. There is just this song and the reminder of how "love" can make people do crazy things. I heard someone from some media (not sure if TV or movie) a few years back say something like, you know you're in love when you're willing to do stupid things and not care how stupid you look (I really don't like using the word stupid, but that's the term that was used!).
It's weird to be at the stage where suddenly, conversations with girlfriends tend to drift about guys. Those who seem to have been uninterested in relationships in college show more interest now. I don't know if it comes with the territory of being in our twenties, but I'm betting on that for the explanation. There is talk about the scarcity of great guys (sorry, guys!), settling down (eeep), and just "guys" in general. It isn't a topic that makes me uncomfortable, but it gets to the point where it becomes uncomfortable. Maybe it's because now, it feels a lot more real than before.
The thought of getting married and settling down and all that banana feels more real that it has ever felt. It is still a distant thing (very distant!), but there's the thought of establishing that relationship to get to that "distant thing". My gosh, what am I saying?!
I hope, however, that girls stop being fools for love. It's so easy to get lost in the intensity and just the rainbows and sunshine of it, that it seems reasonable to lose all sense of objectivity. But I've realized the girls who are grounded in their values, have great self-respect and self-confidence retain more objectivity, if not for objective purposes, but simply out of respect for themselves.
Back in high school, my best friend wrote me something that I have never forgotten until now (see the effect you have on me, char!!!):
No, no, I'm not "in love" or anything. There is no guy. There is just this song and the reminder of how "love" can make people do crazy things. I heard someone from some media (not sure if TV or movie) a few years back say something like, you know you're in love when you're willing to do stupid things and not care how stupid you look (I really don't like using the word stupid, but that's the term that was used!).
It's weird to be at the stage where suddenly, conversations with girlfriends tend to drift about guys. Those who seem to have been uninterested in relationships in college show more interest now. I don't know if it comes with the territory of being in our twenties, but I'm betting on that for the explanation. There is talk about the scarcity of great guys (sorry, guys!), settling down (eeep), and just "guys" in general. It isn't a topic that makes me uncomfortable, but it gets to the point where it becomes uncomfortable. Maybe it's because now, it feels a lot more real than before.
The thought of getting married and settling down and all that banana feels more real that it has ever felt. It is still a distant thing (very distant!), but there's the thought of establishing that relationship to get to that "distant thing". My gosh, what am I saying?!
I hope, however, that girls stop being fools for love. It's so easy to get lost in the intensity and just the rainbows and sunshine of it, that it seems reasonable to lose all sense of objectivity. But I've realized the girls who are grounded in their values, have great self-respect and self-confidence retain more objectivity, if not for objective purposes, but simply out of respect for themselves.
Back in high school, my best friend wrote me something that I have never forgotten until now (see the effect you have on me, char!!!):
Girls who have self-respect do not need to be taught about men.
It may be fun to be a "fool" for someone. But be a fool in the proper way.
hugs, 
@ 10:19 PM
2 Comments:
At 1:39 AM,
jaded_quill said…
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i was smiling and giggling as i read this: hope, however, that girls stop being fools for love. It's so easy to get lost in the intensity and just the rainbows and sunshine of it, that it seems reasonable to lose all sense of objectivity. // It may be fun to be a "fool" for someone. But be a fool in the proper way.
coincidence or not, (and believe it or not coz my post was really confusing) my whole 'thou shall not devour the steak when you have promised to be a vegetarian' rambling is somewhat about the topic of 'being a fool.'(or, how one should TRY NOT to be)
*grins*
i'm just uncomfortable talking about lovey-dovey-and-boys stuff directly/publicly, so whenever i have to rant about it, i always use metaphors. hahahh!
ack!so sing it with me, let us NOT be fools!!!!!!!!!!!!! wahahahhah! have some dignity, girl! *smacks myself*
At 8:09 AM,
Author said…
Hehehe! I love your blog! i was just thinking about it! Everything does seem more real, and the thought of actually finding someone to start a family is this like amazing dream! But the act of actually meeting someone is just so...prententious? it just seems to unnatural. Hahaha. your right though. if i did feel this way and i was in the situation im in right now, but i didnt grow up the way that i did, i would totally be a fool of someone. :) But i know that you would snap me out of it! The beauty of the buddy system!:)
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